We live and we learn… a lot.

It is strange how quickly we evolve through each stage of life. At one point only concerned with the Friday night football- to planning a life, a life in which your decisions will shape a husband and a family.

We are sent here to learn. To learn to love, I believe, is on the top of this list. To create true relationships. By true I mean honest. I also mean open, forgiving and warm. Jealousy should be abolished (oh, except for that “you are my man” kind) and each day should be an opportunity to seek out the best in your other half. And everyday should also be an opportunity to seek out the not-so-good in you, the static, the mean and throw it out.

As a girl I have always dreamt of that fairytale wedding. Flowy chiffon, lace details and flowers so full you could drown in there scrumptious petals. Oh! And we mustn’t forget the velvety cake and perfect love songs. I’ve realized, that it might rain on that day and there might be gossipy-whisperings and the cake might fall. And I’ve realized that in the end what really matters is the commitment you made. The foundation you’ve set out to build, the love you’ve promised to give and the family you intend to create.

I’m no Dr.Phil, Oprah or even experienced on this subject for that matter but I’ve lived a little bit of life. I’ve been testing this theory out lately and the outcome has been a brilliant, still unavoidably messy, but oh-so-sweet relationship. So, if you are preparing to wed or trucking along to make your marriage blossom take this to heart.. or at least ponder and let me know what you think.

Think of your current situation as a giant Thanksgiving feast! It is glorious and the build-up is a buzz of preparation. There is much to worry about but the star attraction is that juicy, savory turkey (I love the dark meat). Your relationship with your love should be this Turkey. Prepare your patience, finances, cooperation, in-law relationships. Prepare your temper and your jealousy. Get ready to work together as a united force. Once you believe your turkey is juicy, spicy, hot, crispy and stuffed with enough goodness to take on the hungriest, pickiest army… then you prepare the fixings. The homemade whipped cream wedding dress and the perfectly sage spiced mashed potato walls.

Because “where you invest your love you invest your life“.    – Mumford & Sons

Forever, Felica